How to tell if your ex is jealous

What happens when your ex tries to cause trouble?

Lots of people in this world are jealous - it is obvious to everyone except them!

Here are some examples of jealous behaviour:

Following your ex or his/her new partner

Calling your ex's new partner

Hitting your ex or his/her new partner

Continually criticising your ex

Trying to make other people dislike your ex

Gossiping about your ex or his/her new partner

Criticising your ex's new partner to your ex

Getting your children to spy on your ex

Breaking into your ex's home

Using your children as a way to maintain acrimony with your ex

If you tick yes to 3 or more of the above then you need to change your behaviour and try to get over your ex!!!!!

Stay Married then!!!

An article in the Daily Mail cites Mr Justice Coleridge as stating that the Government should encourage people to stay married! That divorce has reached epidemic proportions!

Only marriage can mend broken Britain!!

This Government's taxation policies positively encourage divorce.

For example - An average family in England

A couple with 2 young children aged 5 and 7 with the mother staying at home to look after the children. The Husband takes home £2000.00 per month. The mortgage costs £400.00 per month for their 3 bedroom house. The house is worth £200,000.00 but they could not sell it in the current economic climate and the mortgage is £120,000.00. The husband has a pension worth £150,000.00

The wife decides the marriage is over and gets a part time job.

Her new life

A single mother with 2 children, working 20 hours a week, earning £600.00 she receives another £700.00 in tax credits. Her ex husband will pay her £400.00 per month in child support under the CSA assessment. She rents a room out to a single female friend who helps with the baby sitting and gets another £350 per month tax free. The mother now nets £50.00 more per month than when her husband was at home! She can go out when she wants, has a nice little part time job where she has a good laugh with her work mates and she has lost a stone and a half in weight! She treats herself to a new hair style!

The house is transferred to her but her ex husband stays on the mortgage. He gets to keep his pension.

His new life

He now rents a 2 bedroom flat, sees his kid every other weekend and has to do all his own washing and house work. He is tired a lot so does not go out chasing women as much as he thought he would. He misses his children.

The children's new life

They miss their dad a lot but they do not miss the fighting and mum's constant nagging and moaning about her weight. When they see their dad he spends time with them - something he never did before. They do not like mum's new boyfriend.

Does any of this make sense?

The working tax credit system is a divorcing wife's charter!!!!

Not happy with your divorce settlement?

Sorry I have not been blogging recently - I have been engulfed in all things baby!

The credit crunch has worsened many people's financial situation and the possibility of returning to Court looms large. If you are seeking a variation of maintenance then a change in circumstances may indeed signal an appropriate time to make such an application.

If you are seeking to overturn a capital order then the courts are very reluctant to allow the change in the markets to be regarded as a sufficient intervening event. The certainty of litigation, the fact that assets can increase as well as fall, means that you take your chances. Would Mr Myerson have gone to Court requesting an overturn of his divorce settlement if his assets had doubled in value offering his wife millions more? No... but it still feels like rough justice.

Now maybe a good time to get divorced financially if you are the spouse intent on retaining the house and you are the spouse with no bonus etc. Financial worries do put pressure on a marriage.... today's economy needs an inventive approach to the new economic landscape many people are now letting out the former matrimonial home for example.

Lots of people are also postponing their wedding!!!!!!!!!!!!!!