Friday, February 29, 2008

Is your wife planning to dye her hair black?

I have noticed a trend amongst my clients' wives to dye their hair black!!!!! One could be self expression, two could be coincidence, but more than 3 suggests a trend.

Where has this come from? Britney Spears? Amy Winehouse?

Remember that old song "I'm gonna wash that man right out of my hair"? This is probably a new slant on starting again and changing your self image. Usually people lose weight when they get divorced because of the stress.......... and for women that means a new wardrobe and hairstyle!!!!

Beware if you return home tonight to find your wife's blond locks black and your bathroom covered in what looks like shoe polish. It could be a sign that a divorce petition is in the post!!!!!

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Feeling stressed?

A good measure of how stressed you are is what you dream about. One of my dear friends said that she dreamt she was being chased by a lion! I dreamt that my car broke down, I was rescued by the AA, they drove me off with all my children squashed in the back (it was my old car which only had 2 seats in the back) the brakes failed and we were heading for a large intersection in America! Analysis? Friend's dream - she has an adversary stronger than herself!!! Mine? My life is out of control!!!!! It was the night before I was due to file my tax return!!!!

What recurrent dream did you have as a child? Was it happy or sad? This could help decipher whether you had secure or insecure attachments to those around you. An insecure child often times grows up into an insecure adult.

How needy are you? Divorce is a good way of discovering your natural resilience. Feel able to face the future alone? Feel curious about the opportunities ahead? Or do you dread waking up in the morning? There is a big difference between missing someone you love and needing someone to fill a gap in your soul. Self analysis can slip into navel gazing but divorce is a time to reflect on who you are and where you are going. Regard all adversity as an opportunity for personal growth. Keep a diary of your darkest moments - this is a good way of tracking otherwise unnoticed improvement. Have a worse event in your head. Whenever I feel overwhelmed I think of waking up naked in a rice field in China - realise that you can cope!!!!!!!!!!!!

Friday, February 15, 2008

McCartney Mills where will it end?

Is anyone else bored by reading about their divorce?

I thought Miss Mills looked different - maybe the worry over how many millions she will get has caused her face to appear frozen! Do dolphins get wrinkles?

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Happy with your Valentine?

Today is one of those days when many people, usually women, decide that they have reached the last straw in their relationship. It is particularly poignant because they can normally recall early Valentine's days in their relationship when their partner made a superlative effort to demonstrate his love. Now the day is probably ignored.

This is the first Valentine my boyfriend and I have shared. We went out for lunch and afterwards I followed in my car and we went over a toll bridge. When I came to pay, the attendant told me that the man in front had already paid and that he loved me. How clever. A fantastic Valentine, which cost 50 pence!

Valentine's day is a good measure of the strength of your relationship. If you feel rejected and ignored, or don't even care whether you receive a love token or not, then perhaps it's time to move on. It is a particularly sad day for those in the middle of divorce proceedings and is best regarded as a signpost on the road to singledom and recovery. When you're in the middle of a painful relationship breakdown, it is not helpful for other people to speculate that next year you may well have met someone else. However, most people do manage the transition from despair and loneliness to a brighter future with a new partner. I therefore wish you a Happy Valentine's 2009!!!!!!