Tuesday, November 20, 2007

Want to hang on to him?

Regret pushing him down the road to divorce?

Want him back?

Scared he'll say no?

How did it get to this stage?

Many people treat their partner badly, lose respect for them, treat them even worse, demand that they leave and then..........regret it deeply when they do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

They think they can simply call up and say:

"OK, I didn't mean it, you may return."

Maybe they have done this many times in the past.

But this time their ex says:

" NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

What a shock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's the old worm has turned syndrome.

Maybe you genuinely regret being mean in the past, maybe you sincerely intend to change...............the problem you have is persuading your partner you are worth giving another chance to.

What won't work:

1. Pleading
2. Begging
3. Crying
4. Fighting
5. Demanding
6. Sulking
7. Swearing

I am writing a book on what will work........................... It's not easy, needs genuine commitment on both sides and can develop into a lifetime project but the rewards can be great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Judith said...

I find it more common to be asked by a male client "How do I hang onto her?" or as it has invariably been put to me: "If I buy her a bunch of flowers do you think she'll come back?"
Regrettably, the fact this question is being put to a divorce solicitor tends to indicate how far wrong things have gone and how late that bunch of flowers has been in coming!

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