Some judges say you can't force a 9 year old, some judges say that the child should do as they are told. They can make orders to that effect but who is going to physically force a 10 year old out of a car and into a room with his absent parent?
What are the CAFCASS guidelines?
It states that the Court will take account of the child's wishes and feelings, bearing in mind his/her age and understanding. It's website has some useful guidelines for parents, children and teenagers:
The primary concern of the Court and CAFCASS is stated as what is in the child's best interest. That is the aim, working out what it is and getting it right is another matter................................