Thursday, December 07, 2006



Anyone contemplating divorce or separation would be wise to wait until after Christmas.

If there are children involved they will grow up to hate Christmas, a time of excitement and fun filled family memories will be turned into a reminder of loss and mourning.

There is no good time to tell your partner you want out, but Christmas is the worst possible time. It exaggerates and emphasises the pain.

Instead buy yourself a diary and notebook and plan your new life discreetly.

Lots of people finally make the decision to divorce after Christmas because the expectation of jolly times and happiness throws into stark relief their own misery. January and February are usually busy months for divorce lawyers. If your relationship is going through a rocky patch and yet again you are spending Christmas with the in-laws discuss cancelling the arrangements with your partner. If he/she refuses to listen then he/she is probably soon to be your ex. However, if you think your relationship is fixable it is worth making the effort before it is too late.

On the other hand, if you can't stand the sight of your partner and even his/her breathing drives you mad, then design your own advent calendar. Have it as a countdown to freedom or divorce with January 3rd replacing Christmas day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!